B*tch!

I was telling my in-laws about Babygirl's allergy test results, and my MIL asked if there was anything that we did that caused her high levels of antibodies. I told her I asked the doctor the same thing, and he said that nothing we did or fed Babygirl caused the allergies or the antibodies - some people are just prone to it. My MIL then turned to me and suggested that I ask the doctor if there's anything the mother did or ate while pregnant that would cause that problem so that our next child wouldn't have the same issues.

I was so floored by her comment, all I could was stand there and stare at her with my mouth open. You'd think that after all these years of her "helpful remarks", I'd have some sort of comeback ready, but she always manages to catch me by surprise. I think its because she goes weeks without saying anything bad, lulling me into this false sense of security, and then BAM! she hits me with it.

At least this time Hubby caught the comment and called his mother on it. He asked her point blank why she has to try and blame us for Babygirl's problems. She avoided the question by mumbling something about how she's just trying to help us figure out what to do and busying herself with making lunch. Hubby didn't pursue it right then, but later on he took his mother aside and told her that the way she asked the question basically sounded like an accusation. She told him that she didn't mean it to be an accusation, and she just really wanted to know if there's anything that could be done so we could avoid in the future.

I know I shouldn't let her get to me, but I can't help it. Maybe I am too sensitive (my MIL seems to think so). As a mother, I think I'll always worry that there was something I should have or could have done. I try my best but I'm always wondering if there was a better choice I could have made. The last thing I need is for my MIL to question me too.