the rantings of a sleep deprived mom

Friday, January 28, 2005

Friday Fun Quiz

Not very exotic if you ask me!

I will drown while bobbing for apples!

How will you die? Take the Exotic Cause of Death Test

Tuesday, January 25, 2005

Does this mean I'm immature?

I got this from my little sister:

You Are 18 Years Old


Under 12: You are a kid at heart. You still have an optimistic life view - and you look at the world with awe.

13-19: You are a teenager at heart. You question authority and are still trying to find your place in this world.

20-29: You are a twentysomething at heart. You feel excited about what's to come... love, work, and new experiences.

30-39: You are a thirtysomething at heart. You've had a taste of success and true love, but you want more!

40+: You are a mature adult. You've been through most of the ups and downs of life already. Now you get to sit back and relax.

Funny that the age I act is 6 years younger than my little sister's.

Monday, January 24, 2005


Saturday, I went to the SF Ethnic Festival Audition's to cheer on my dance troupe as they (the intermediate/advanced dancers) tried out for a spot in the 2005 festival. I was looking forward to seeing their routine on stage (I'd seen it numerous times during class), and I was looking forward to seeing the other performers as well. The other tryouts were so-so, but there was one troupe that I was really insulted by.

The group, who shall remain nameless, said they were going to be performing traditional Vietnamese dancing. Granted I'm no expert on Vietnamese dancing (traditional or otherwise), what those people did could not be in anyway considered Vietnamese or dancing. At best the routine sucked and at worst it was racist.

First, the majority of the dancers were non-Asian - which in itself is not an issue. I think its great for people of different cultures and races to be interested in each other's traditions, but only if they actually try to learn something about it. Second, these people went on stage dressed as COOLIES! They were actually wearing the straw coolie hats and the coolie pajamas. And third, these people pantomimed planting a field! The women "dancers" sowed seeds or something from their hats, and the male "dancers" followed them around pretending to hoe the field.

I looked up the Vietnamese dance company online, and they actually seem like a legitimate dance troupe. The director of the dance company is Vietnamese refugee who studied with the San Francisco Ballet School and has an MFA in dance, and most of the performers listed on his website have a degree in dance or they studied with ballet companies. The website said their style is "a unique blend of contemporary modern and traditional Vietnamese dance." (I'm guessing what I saw was more in the contemporary modern genre than the traditional Vietnamese style.)

After going through the website, I've got to assume the perfomers weren't trying to be offensive, but I can't believe those people are real dancers. They didn't do anything resembling dance moves of any kind besides walking/running on tiptoe.

Monday, January 17, 2005

Annoying or easily annoyed?

I found myself getting annoyed with Hubby over a bunch of little things this morning. He has today off, so he decided to play golf with some friends. I started getting annoyed with him pretty much right away because he able to get up and get ready quickly when normally it takes him forever to get out of bed. I'm annoyed with his getting ready quickly because I've always been bugged by his dilly dallying in the morning. I usually end up doing the lion share of things for Babygirl (getting her dressed, packing up the car, etc) in the morning because Hubby moves so slow. But today he gets ready and packs the car quickly w/o my pushing him to move faster because he wants to get to the golf course early to warm up. I'm also annoyed that he left earlier than usual to drop the girl off at daycare. I'm usually stressing about us being late every morning and trying to hustle him out of the door, but he always takes his time and ends up leaving 15 minutes later than I'd like. But today, he rushes Babygirl out of the house because he has plans.

And truth be told, I'm annoyed with him for playing golf today instead of spending quality time with Babygirl. I definitely think he deserves to have some time for himself. I even told him to play golf today with his friends, but I know that if the situation were reversed, I'd probably spend the day with Babygirl because I'd feel guilty putting her in daycare on my day off. I don't want to think that his playing golf is the main reason for my annoyance today, because I really do think he needs the break to enjoy himself, but I wonder if it affects how I'm feeling towards him today.

I do know what's really bothering me is that when he wants to do something he can multi-task and get things done in a timely manner, but he won't do it on a normal basis. But I do worry that a part of my annoyance at him comes from him not choosing to spend the time with Babygirl. I don't want him to feel guilty for taking time for himself, and I don't want to ruin his good time with my bad mood.

Wednesday, January 12, 2005

Allergy Test Results

Hubby and I took Babygirl for more allergy testing last Wednesday and unfortunately she really is allergic to soy, nuts and eggs. Since the blood tests were inconclusive, the doctor did skins tests this time. Babygirl did not like the testing - the nurse marked her back w/a felt tip pen then scratched her back with small needles that contained the items (soy, eggs, rice, pea, walnut) she was to be tested for. At least Babygirl didn't seem to be in pain this time - she cried when the nurse used the pen and didn't cry any harder when she was scratched. The hardest part of the testing was trying to hold her still w/o touching her back or letting her scratch her back as her skin reacted to the allergens.

I'm bummed that Babygirl is allergic to everything, but the doctor did say that she could grow out of it. We'll reevaluate and do further testing in 6 months. Hopefully, her diet restrictions will ease up then. Until then we'll be spending a lot of money at Miss Roben's Allergy Grocer site.

Wednesday, December 29, 2004

If you don't have anything nice to say....

The other day, I was putting a new coat, and my MIL walks up and asks, "Is that a new jacket?" I tell her that the coat is Hubby's xmas present to me. She inspects the inside of the jacket and pronounces it warm enough because it has a full lining, and then she says, "The wool could be softer though." What was the point in being so critical? It really bugs me that she can't just keep her mouth shut. It would be different if I had asked for her opinion, but even then why say something negative?

Hubby and my SIL have confronted their mom about her critical remarks before, and she always says that she's not trying to criticize but she can't lie and pretend she likes something when she doesn't. Of course, her opinion is never asked for, so it's not like she has to lie. I guess she's just one of those people who are so compelled to tell the truth that they can't keep from blurting things out. Of course the things she has to be truthful about are never positive things.....

Tuesday, December 28, 2004


Miss Perfect hates her BIL's girlfriend and constantly complains about her at work. (As far as any of us can tell the main problem with the girlfriend is that she's just like Miss Perfect but younger.) She insists that the girlfriend is very immature and one of the examples she gave is that the girlfriend likes to play Mad Gabs. Miss Perfect said she hoped the girlfriend wouldn't bring the game over for New Year's Eve because "What are we? 12? I should buy some drinking games to play instead." I guess I must be immature because I'd much rather play boardgames than drinking games.

Thursday, December 23, 2004

Babygirl can be bribed

My parents flew up from S. CA last night (yipee!) for our family Christmas gathering. Babygirl was asleep, so she didn't know her grandparents were here. I took Babygirl to see my mom as soon as she woke up. My mom was so excited to see Babygirl that her voice got all high-pitched and loud and she tried to kiss her and hold her right away, which of course scared Babygirl. Babygirl tried to get away from the crazed, kissing grandmother by leaning into me, holding out her hands, and saying, "No. No." My mom thought Babygirl didn't recognize her so she doubled her kissing efforts and kept saying, "I'm Po Po (Cantonese for grandmother on mother's side)." which panicked Babygirl even more. Finally my mom decided to bribe Babygirl, so she brought out a little Santa doll with bells for feet and shook it in front of Babygirl. Worked like a charm. Babygirl was out of my arms and into her grandmother's so fast, that I almost thought I dropped her. Do you think I need to talk to Babygirl about not taking candy from strangers?

Tuesday, December 21, 2004

Only slightly guilty

Hubby had an early dentist appointment this morning, so I had to drop Babygirl off at daycare. Hubby said that Babygirl hasn't cried the last few weeks, so I was hoping this would be an easy drop off. I sat with her while she ate her breakfast (Cheerios and bananas), and she seemed happy - waving and babbling to the boy sitting next to her. When I told her, "Mommy has to go bye bye now." she pushed her chair back, started crying, and tried to climb on me. I picked her up and walked her over to her teacher, Ms. Mary. Ms. Mary knew the drill, so she said, "It's time for Mommy to go now." Babygirl cried and said, "No!" but she stopped as soon Ms. Mary took her into her arms. I waved goodbye and walked out the door feeling only slightly guilty.

Monday, December 20, 2004

Outed by Babygirl

The other day, I was sitting around watching Babygirl play by herself when I farted. Babygirl stopped playing, turned to me, and said, "Boouuut!" Then she went on her merry way.